You’ve found your person, picked a date, and maybe even locked in on a venue! And yet, instead of feeling over the moon, you’re exhausted, irritable, and stressed beyond belief.
Wedding stress is very real. Between managing full-time jobs, handling family expectations, and making a hundred tiny decisions to plan the perfect wedding, it’s no surprise that many couples hit burnout before they get to saying ‘I do’.
While most people assume premarital counselling is only for couples with relationship issues, it’s also a powerful tool to manage the emotional toll of wedding planning.
In this blog, we explore why wedding stress and burnout are so common. We also discuss how premarital counselling in Australia can provide the right resources to help you manage them.
According to a 2023 Australian survey, 94% of the couples who participated found wedding planning overwhelming or stressful.
Relationship counselling before marriage addresses issues like family pressures, future planning, and division of labour. However, many couples today also turn to premarital counselling to tackle wedding-related stress and burnout.
During sessions, a trained counsellor can help you:
Pinterest-perfect weddings and comparisons with weddings thrown by friends and family can cause FOMO (fear of missing out), making couples feel like anything less than flawless is a failure.
→ Premarital counselling in Australia can help you identify and reframe these expectations into healthier ones.
Planning a wedding involves hundreds, if not thousands, of major and minor decisions.
Below are some decisions that couples typically have to make :
→ Counselling equips you with tools to manage decision fatigue and align your choices with your shared values.
Weddings are expensive, and this is a universal experience. It can be hard to balance personal, societal and cultural wishes with what your budget allows you to do.
→ Counsellors in Australia can help you communicate openly about money and set realistic goals and boundaries with your partner.
Many couples may feel torn between planning a wedding that they want vs what their families want. With weddings, it’s double the trouble, as you may have to please two families at once.
For multicultural or interreligious couples, stress often comes from differences in cultural, societal, and religious wedding traditions.
→ Counselling can help you learn how to balance family dynamics as a team instead of feeling pressured or arguing with each other. At TYHO, our Therapists offer culturally sensitive and non-judgmental support.
Ironically, couples spend so much time planning the wedding that they end up spending very little time connecting. This can lead to disconnection and distance, which in turn, can also lead to stress and anxiety.
→ Counsellors can help you review your priorities and plan strategies to reconnect with your partner (even amid all the wedding chaos).
The pressure to make sure everyone’s happy, including guests, parents, and friends, often leads to people-pleasing and emotional burnout.
→ Relationship counselling can help you identify and manage people-pleasing tendencies and set healthy boundaries.
Sometimes, one partner may feel like they’re doing most of the planning while the other is not as engaged in the process, leading to arguments and conflicts.
→ Australian counsellors can help couples improve collaboration, learn to hear each other’s needs better, divide responsibilities equally and prevent recurring arguments.
Existing concerns, issues or doubts can feel louder and loom larger under wedding pressure. Without space to process or talk things through, this can create stress.
→ Relationship counselling provides a safe space to process issues and concerns like these together with the help of a professional counsellor.
Couples with full-time jobs may face the brunt of wedding stress more, as companies typically don’t provide time off to plan weddings. This can mean late nights, weekend errands, and continuous overwhelm and exhaustion.
→ Wedding stress counselling can help you learn stress management strategies, set boundaries at work and plan your responsibilities better.
External expectations (whether from family, friends, or social media) to ‘look perfect’ on the big day can create shame, insecurity, and pressure. Many may feel pressured to look thin, try fad diets and take other extreme decisions to fit the image of the ideal bride or groom.
→ Premarital counsellors in Australia can help you shift the focus from appearances to emotional readiness and improving self-worth.
Wedding planning can feel like walking a tightrope while ticking off a never-ending checklist. But the emotional overload often runs deeper than just logistics and decisions.
That’s why premarital counselling doesn't just focus on achieving couple goals and preparing couples for life after marriage, but can also support them in managing the stress of planning itself.
Here are three practical tools many premarital counsellors use during wedding stress counselling to help couples stay connected, calm, and clear-headed through the chaos of planning the big day:
Counsellors often start by helping couples reflect on why they want a wedding and what kind of experience they wish to create. The keyword is them, the couple, not just others.
Values clarification exercises are one of the most common tools used in premarital counselling.
These may include simple prompts like:
Other decision-making frameworks that may be used in premarital therapy include:
These exercises and frameworks can help bring clarity and improve practical decision-making.
Counselling also teaches couples how to handle conflicts without letting them snowball into distance and resentment.
Therapists often coach partners on using techniques like pause & repair, which involves taking a short break during heated conversations and communication tools like using ‘I’ statements instead of shifting blame.
Boundary-setting may involve exercises like roleplaying conversations with parents or in-laws, especially around sensitive topics like budgets, guest lists, or traditions.
Counsellors also teach grounding techniques that couples can use to manage wedding stress. These can include final dress fittings, family meetings, or emotionally draining discussions.
Here are some emotional regulation and stress management tools your therapist may teach you:
Sessions may also involve identifying emotional triggers (like unresolved fears or past experiences) and practising strategies to self-soothe or co-regulate. Strategies can include stress balls, affirmations, scent oils, and other relaxation tools.
By learning how to regulate emotions in real life, couples can slowly build resilience for both the wedding day and life after marriage.
Amidst booking dates with the florist, attending catering taste tests, and checking and rechecking guest RSVPs, it's easy to get caught up in the stress of wedding planning.
If you and your partner are planning your big day and feel the pressure creeping in a bit too much, we encourage you to consider premarital counselling.
Contrary to popular belief, premarital counselling isn’t just for couples with problems. It can help you manage wedding stress and burnout, plan for your future as a married couple, or simply deepen your bond and grow closer together.
Wedding stress counselling can help you plan the day of your dreams while prioritising your bond and protecting your mental wellbeing.
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Not at all. While working on your future after marriage is part of it, premarital counselling can also help you navigate the emotional stress of wedding planning.
Think of it like preventive care for your relationship. You don’t need to be in crisis to seek therapy of any kind.
In fact, many couples without major issues find premarital counselling helpful to deal with wedding planning stress, improve their communication, explore and understand each other's love languages, and prepare for future challenges with more confidence and clarity.
That’s absolutely normal. Premarital counsellors are trained to create a safe, pressure-free space where both partners feel heard.
If your partner is feeling hesitant, have open conversations with them. Share resources and encourage them to do their own research before making a decision.
Remind them that seeking premarital counselling doesn’t mean something is wrong with your relationship. It’s simply a professional way to manage wedding stress and grow closer as a couple.
If they’re still unsure, suggest trying a single session to gauge how they feel. Often, the pressure to commit to long-term counselling discourages people from seeking support.
It’s also essential to allow your partner some time to build trust and start opening up to your counsellor.
Absolutely! TYHO Therapists in Australia offer flexible online premarital counselling options.
Online counselling has been proven to be just as effective as in-person counselling. It’s a great way to balance therapy alongside daily life without adding more logistical stress to your already busy wedding planning schedule.
You can also discuss the duration and frequency of your counselling sessions with your therapist!
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